Saturday, January 30, 2010

Bucket List Additions

Hello! I just wanted to add a couple of things to my "bucket list" that I apparently scribbled into my planner last semester and forgot about!

75. Hear a Bulgarian "radio" choir live
76. Grow my own food (is this on my other list?)
77. Backpack across Europe with someone I love
78. Live in the minority somewhere
79. Take my mom to Hawaii
80. Learn world geography (it's just sad how bad I am at geography)
81. Meet the President (doesn't have to be this one specifically)
82 - 100. Still open.

So if any of those are multiples, sorry! I'll have to adjust it later.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Jobs, Leases, and Living in Sin

So here is an interesting twist to complicate (or uncomplicate perhaps?) my life. My boyfriend and I are looking at apartments in the city where he goes to school. This city is only an hour away from our hometown. It'd be nice to be close to my parents, brother, one of my sisters, and my nephew. Since I've visited my boyfriend many times throughout the past three and half years he's gone to school there, I feel like I know the city. Since it's a university town, it's a very young city. There are lots of things to do, recreational softball leagues I could join, good shopping, good bars, good entertainment, etc. Also, this fall I got really interested in following his school's football team. They had a good season. He even took me to a home game. He thinks he could probably get me season tickets in the student section.

The thing is... I don't know what kind of job I could find in this location. Since I think I'd like to start graduate school for documentary film in the fall of 2011, I'd like to do something which would make me more qualified when I'm applying and help me learn more skills. One thing I was thinking about was trying to work as a production assistant or something for a local television news station, but my mom doesn't think they'd be hiring someone fresh out of college for that. She said people older than me with a lot of experience handle the filming, editing, etc.

So, okay, maybe I wouldn't be able to find a job in the industry I'm interested in. What if I look at this just a gap year, a chance to clear my head and reassess my goals, and take a break from school for awhile before starting grad school? It would be a nice, easy transition since essentially I'd be living the life of a college student (my boyfriend will still be in school - he graduates in December) but going to a job instead of class. I filled out an application on the university's website for employment (it took over an hour! I hate applying for jobs... so tedious and time consuming) in some sort of clerical position. Maybe it wouldn't be the most fulfilling work, but I worked as an office assistant here at my school in the performing arts department. If I could get a job with the theatre arts department there, it would be very interesting! But I'm sure those positions don't open up very often, and if even they did, I don't know if anyone would know now that they will need someone in June.

I know my boyfriend needs to know now if I am planning on coming and living with him because he needs to sign a lease before all the apartments get taken. He also needs to let his current roommate (who also is doing an extra semester) know so that he can start looking for his own housing if he and my boyfriend won't be living together anymore. While the idea of living with him sounds really great, I'm a little hesitant because it might not be the smartest thing for me career-wise. I'm also worried I'll miss an opportunity I might be offered between now and graduation in a field I'm really interested in that could involve working with great people and learning a lot.

I think the most important thing to do is identify what is best for me. I have evaluated my mental and emotional state and think I'm not ready to live abroad by myself right away, so that probably takes teaching English abroad out. I need to be close to people who love me. Going to live with him would achieve that (since he loves me, and I'd be close to my family...except my awesome sister who lives in another place since she's studying to be a doctor and is all awesome and stuff... and happens to read my blog!). I'm not worried that we would break up during the time of the lease since we're always insanely happy when we're together. I think it would be so much fun! Whether or not we will eventually get married, I don't know. I do know, however, that I'm not ready to walk away from this relationship. I really want to give it a chance. I feel like if I don't live with him and try it at some point, I'll regret it for the rest of my life. Why not take the time now to do that? Isn't this relationship important too? More important than a career? Who knows?

Well, apart from me not being able to find a job in the city he goes to school, there is one more major road block: His conservative, religious parents. They don't want us living together before marriage. Unfortunately for them, I refuse to marry someone without living with them first. We're sort of waging war through Greg. He seems to think his mom might be receptive to at least talking about it, but he is really worried about upsetting them and straining his relationship with them by living with me against their wishes. Since he is still very financially dependent on them, this is a legitimate concern. He also loves his parents and doesn't want a bad relationship with them for that reason alone.

I'm not sure how all this is going to work out, but I will keep trying on different scenarios and seeing how they feel. This one feels pretty okay. While I'm worried about closing myself off to other opportunities in other locations that I might find, it would be nice to know sooner rather than later what I'm doing after Graduation so I can relax a little and enjoy my last semester without stressing about finding a job, etc. I just need to make sure that after the year is up, I'm taking the next step towards my career which is furthering my education by going to grad school. I want to make sure it's in a location I really like, too, and that I'm not signing up for staying so close to home for the rest of my life. I'm hoping he would try to find a job where I want to go next if I am coming to live with him now.

What do you think? Do you know what you are doing when you graduate?

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Anxiety, Graduate School, and "The Future"

So, I haven't really been succeeding at posting everyday, and I apologize for that. I don't think I really have any readers, so I probably didn't disappoint many people.

I have made the decision to start therapy again. I've been in therapy on and off since early in my college career, but the stress of the upcoming life decisions I'll be making is really weighing on me. I have to tell you I feel anxious all the time. It catches me at the most odd moments, too. My boyfriend and I will be buying milk at the grocery store and all of a sudden my heart starts racing and my chest tightens up. People tell me that this is normal, but that doesn't make it any easier.

I really wish I'd given more thought to what I'd like to do after I graduate a little bit sooner... I started mulling over the idea of a career in documentary film about mid-semester last semester and started speaking with people about what that might look like. I am taking a class now where I will actually get to make a documentary, so it will definitely be exciting to learn the technical sides of film making. As an Anthropology major and Performing Arts minor, I think this sounds like an interesting way to bring together all my interests (I may have mentioned this in the first post). Anyways, now I'm freaking out, thinking maybe I should have applied to graduate school for documentary film making for the fall. I mean, I have basically NO experience! How am I supposed to try to get funding and work as a film maker? But alas when I, instead of doing my reading for my History discussion section tomorrow afternoon over 1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus, looked at application deadlines for the fall, they all have passed.

I do have a couple things I'm pursuing, such as teaching English abroad or being an au pair, but neither have yielded a concrete job offer yet. It's so difficult because there is part of me that still doesn't know what I want. I change my mind so frequently that who knows if come May I'll still want to go abroad? Maybe I'll want to go home to the Midwest and spend some time with my family. Maybe I will go to New York and work as a production assistant to learn the ropes of film making without going to film school.

I've also got this boyfriend... We've been together for almost six years. It's been a long-distance relationship for all but about a year. When I was in high school, I went to Sweden as a foreign exchange student, thus starting the trials of separation. Then I chose to go to college halfway across the country while he stayed within an hour of our hometown. Both are good schools, and both are choices we had to make on our own. Somehow we've stayed together. I love him and he is wonderful, but I've always told myself that I will not base my life decisions around him when I am so young and need to explore and find my own path. Well, he has an extra semester of school. I graduate in May. He graduates in December. What am I supposed to do in the meantime? What if I find a career and set myself up somewhere and he then wants me to move to be with him?

I still can't believe I'm almost done with my time at **** University. When it's May and I am graduating, I promise to tell you where I'm graduating from! You'll just have to wait in suspense until then unless you are a masterful stalker and can somehow piece it all together. I don't think I've given away where I live yet, but that'll probably happen eventually. I feel like there is so much more I could've done here. My GPA is 3.38.... I know I could've done so much better! It's frustrating because my grades have been steadily improving since I was a scared young freshman who hadn't really learned how to skim and didn't always get the reading done.

The thing I'm going to miss the most is the girls I live with. Three of them I've been living with since freshman year. They are as close to me as sisters and it breaks my heart to think that we won't be together in June. Maybe we'll keep in touch, but it won't be the same. When we talk, we'll just be updating each other on our lives instead of being part of each others lives. I'll miss the day to day of Sara coming into my room to sit on the end of my bed while I procrastinate and we talk about nothing, giggling over stupid things. Or flipping channels with Heidi, probably settling on something silly, like Ace of Cakes or Say Yes to the Dress. Or seeing Lauren light up when she comes home from a great date. Or trying to convince Jacqui to put on pants when she walks around the house! Haha

To summarize, here are the major things stressing me out right now.
1. The knowledge that in May, I need to have a job, health insurance, somewhere to live, etc.
2. What is going to happen with my relationship with my boyfriend?
3. What do I want to do with the rest of my life?
4. What will it be like to not be with these girls anymore?

Do you have any advice for me? Is anything stressing you out that you'd like to vent about?

Please leave comments - I do moderate them, but I promise I'll approve anything that isn't terribly offensive or hurtful to anyone.

Hears to hoping we all find our own paths and happiness,
Megan

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Bucket List

I really wasn't feeling like doing my French homework last night, so I was up until 2 am working on my "Bucket List" (You know, the things you want to do before you kick the bucket?). I decided to stop at 74 because I'm still young and might have some things I want to add as I get older. I'd like to have 100 on it.

1. Ride the baggage carousel
2. Learn to break dance
3. Break dance on the New York Subway
4. Play guitar and sing outdoors with my guitar case open for "tips"
5. Be on a game show
6. Act on Broadway
7. Learn a martial art
8. Run a 5K
9. Record a CD of at least 10 entirely original songs
10. Host Saturday Night Live
11. Speak at Commencement at **** University
12. Make a movie
13. See the Northern Lights
14. Visit every continent
15. Try fencing
16. Become fluent in French
17. Learn conversational Spanish
18. Learn to play the piano
19. Master guitar playing
20. Be in a band
21. Sing a solo with a gospel choir
22. Star in a musical
23. Learn to ballroom dance
24. Ride in a hot air balloon
25. Swim with dolphins
26. Be an extra in a movie
27. Write a novel
28. Host a foreign exchange student
29. Shower in a waterfall
30. Experience weightlessness
31. Grow a garden
32. Scuba dive in Australia's Great Barrier Reef
33. Visit an active volcano
34. Attend a soccer game of two South American rival teams
35. Write a travel book
36. Have a food fight
37. Get married
38. Witness someone giving birth
39. Save someone's life
40. Go to the filming of a tv show
41. Visit Neuschwanstein castle
42. Crowd surf
43. Learn to do something artistic
44. Visit the pyramids
45. Teach someone something they've always wanted to be able to do
46. Organize a "spontaneous" dance party in a public place for unsuspecting bystanders
47. Have a body I'm proud of
48. Really believe that it doesn't matter what I look like, but who I am inside
49. Go on an African safari
50. Visit the Taj Mahal
51. Learn to do (and do) a figure skating loop jump
52. Water ski
53. Work a job I love
54. Visit Machu pitchu
55. Go to Carnival in Rio
56. Visit a concentration camp and never forget
57. Travel Greece
58. Learn world geography
59. Have a spontaneous jam session with a stranger on the street in a foreign country
60. Be truly happy with myself and my life
61. Have a star named after me and be able to locate it in the sky
62. Love someone completely, deeply, unselfishly, and without agenda
63. Start at scholarship at **** University in ****'s name
64. Finish all my assignments for class one week before they are due
65. Voice a Disney princess
66. Learn to do Yoga
67. Have an honest, open, face-to-face conversation with someone who broke my heart
68. Vacation at a nude beach
69. Spend a year of my life doing nothing but what I want to do
70. Set a world record
71. Live off the land for a month
72. Dance with Ellen DeGeneres
73. Forgive my parents for being human
74. Buy a one-way ticket and travel without an itinerary
75-100. ???

What's on YOUR list?

Peace,
Megan

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Introductions

Hi World Wide Web. This first post will just be a chance for us to get to know each other. The first thing you need to know about me is that I am starting my second semester of my senior year of college. I want to use this blog as a place to release my stress over the whole "deciding what I'm going to do with the rest of my life" thing. Since I've been spending a lot of the time at the Career Education Center on campus, I've perfected my "Elevator Speech", so here it goes!

Hello. My name is Megan **** and I'm a senior Anthropology Major at **** University (Got to be somewhat anonymous). During my college career, I have served as the Publicity Director for several on-campus student theater productions as well as acted in several plays. I am currently serving as the Publicity Director for the **** Film Festival on campus, working to actively recruit student film makers for the event. I would like to combine my background in Anthropology and the arts to work as a documentary film maker. I recently had the chance to help assemble press packets and work on publicity for a documentary world premiering at the Sundance Film Festival this month and I look forward to learning more about this exciting field.

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It's Saturday night. I woke up around 11:30 am this morning and then spent the entire day doing two things: Watching back-to-back-to-back movies on HBO and playing guitar. Poorly. See, I've always had this secret (well, not too secret to anyone who knows me) dream of being a rockstar. After obsessively internet stalking Taylor Swift for about a year, I finally bought a guitar last summer. She's beautiful. I named her Julia. Only problem is, I don't really know how to play her. Aside from five Taylor Swift songs and half of a Shania Twain song, I've got nothing. I made it a New Years Resolution to try to play some on-campus open mic nights at this coffee shop which hosts them, and maybe even create a MySpace page to put videos up, but so far that hasn't happened.

I'm so stressed about graduating. I think a lot of it comes from the fact that while I'm considering documentary film making, I'm not really sure what I am going to be doing come June 1st. I've applied to teach English in Japan for a year, and I've got a profile up online looking for jobs as an au pair (nanny), but I don't really know what I want to be doing right away. Last semester I was at the Career Education Center every week trying to prepare to job hunt. Now that I've started hunting, it looks fairly bleak.

No matter how well-meaning they are, whenever friends and family ask what I'm doing when I graduate, I kind of want to kick them. Not hard. Just a little tiny kick in the shins. Then there is the inevitable question: What does one do with an Anthropology major? And then they ask about whether or not I want to work in a museum (no), study tribes in New Guinea (no), or dig up bones (no.... and that's Archeology, thank you...). So what do I want to do? Well, since I think being a rockstar is probably out, I've got to work on that one...

What do YOU want to do?

Peace,
Megan